Welcome to the Australian

DV Support Hub.🫂


The DV Support Hub, provides FREE consolidated information on Australian domestic and family violence matters.

It is just one of the many hubs provided for free through Family Counselling Support Network, to Australians. If you, or are family member, are facing family and domestic violence or supporting someone who is, this hub provides information, resources and a guide on how to find support, keep safe, access resources and move forward safely with independence and greater confidence.

We endeavour to keep this information as up to date as possible.

This site is dedicated to the memory of all those who have lost their lives and the resilience of survivors.

If you have arrived at this hub because you or your loved one or friend is in need of support, we are extremely proud of you.

If you have arrived at this hub because you are seeking support to help find solutions to deal with your emotions, great move, we are also here for you to get the support you need.

Please know there is love and support for you. You've Got This.

There is never an excuse for abuse.

PLEASE NOTE: THIS WEBSITE IS CURRENTLY UNDER CONSTRUCTION AND WILL NOT BE ABLE TO BE RELIED UPON FOR ACCURACY AT THIS STAGE. WE HOPE TO BE COMPLETED BY DECEMBER 2024

Meet our Ambassadors & Panel Members

Sabeel Burgess

We are very honoured to have Sabeel Burgess, CEO of Open Haven Ltd, and highly regarded domestic and family violence advocate, as one of our hub's ambassadors. A former high school teacher with 20 years of experience, including working with juvenile offenders, she successfully transformed Open Haven into a highly regarded post-crisis domestic and family violence NFP service provider, empowering survivors of domestic violence to realise their goals, offering long term recovery support services such as personalised 'restoration plans' to help survivors become supported and self-sufficient, driving lessons, job preparation, and legal referrals.

Kelly Gurski

With are incredibly honoured to welcome Sergeant Kelly Gurski as an ambassador for the DV hub. Kelly has devoted 30 years to policing, 14 as a domestic and family violence liaison officer. In 2024 she was awarded an Australian Police Medal for her dedication supporting victim-survivors of domestic and family violence and the impact of trauma, violence and abuse on their physical, mental and social wellbeing. Kelly is also an ardent supporter of the charity RizeUp, mother of six and a keen sportswoman who has featured on Adventure All Stars, fundraising for DV.

Susan Crain

Susan is a lawyer, with a background in psychology and counselling. She has worked for over 30 years supporting clients with family law and domestic violence matters. Susan has worked with many community groups including Caxton Legal Centre, Gold Coast Community Legal Centre, Act for Kids, Rize Up, and Open Haven, where she currently sits on the Board of Directors.

Susan is CEO and Founder of Separation Support Network and Family Counselling Support Network.

www.separationsupportnetwork.com

www.familycounsellingsupportnetwork.com

Aaron Schultz


CEO and Founder of The Outback Mind Foundation, a grass roots health promotion and education charity, focused on empowering regional men to take a proactive approach to looking after their mental health and to reduce the risk of men committing acts of domestic and family violence. Aaron's vision is to improve the emotional literacy of more regional men to help them live calm, conscious and connected lives.

The charities, Boiling Point documentary is a very powerful conversation starter shining light on the realities of domestic violence and male mental health, and real life stories of men who have turned their lives around. www.outbackmind.org.au

Mark Colwill


Counsellor

Mark is dedicated to helping you achieve your goals in overcoming the challenges you face during times of mental and emotional difficulty. Whether you are suffering with addiction, anxiety, depression, gambling habits or anger he works with you to take back control with professional counselling.

Domestic & Family Violence Hub

Finally the Support You Need All In One Place!

Emergency Support in Australia

PLEASE NOTE: IF YOU OR YOUR FAMILY ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER, CALL 000

FOR POLICE AND AMBULANCE HELP

With so many silo service providers offering assistance in Australia, we endeavour to explain their roles, how they interact and how to obtain their assistance for you and your family.

HELP IS AVAILABLE

🫂Emergency Contact Numbers and details of the service providers including 1800RESPECT (the 24 hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line)

🫂How to access medical emergency support

🫂How to access mental health emergency support

🫂What if I need a translator or interpreter to get emergency help?

We endeavour to update these details on a regular basis as required but please immediately notify us if you believe there is any error in the detail or the service has discontinued.

What is Domestic and Family Violence?

🫂What amounts to Domestic and Family Violence? Checklists to help.

🫂Details of the new Australian laws relating to stalking and coercive control

🫂Explain the difference between domestic abuse, family violence and child abuse

🫂Who can become a victim?

🫂LGBTQ relationships and domestic and family violence

🫂Teen dating violence


Please note: the checklists are not exhaustive, to cover every scenario, but will assist you to reduce your risks.

What are the 'Red Flags' of DV?

(warning signs)

It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of a relationship if it will become abusive. In fact, many people who are abusive may seem absolutely perfect on the surface — as if they are the dream partner — in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight but rather emerge and intensify as the relationship grows. That’s why it’s important to know the red flags of abuse.

There are often a number of warning signs 'RED FLAGS' that a relationship is or will likely become abusive.

🫂What are the Red Flags to look out for in a new relationship?

🫂Complete the Quiz.

🫂Education and programmes

Reporting suspected child abuse

Child abuse can be a single incident or several incidents that take place over time. It may not involve family members.

Child abuse must be reported if a child has suffered significant harm, is suffering significant harm, or is at risk of suffering significant harm.

🫂What is child abuse? How does it differ from domestic and family violence?

🫂How to recognise potential child abuse

🫂What to do if you suspect child abuse

🫂Why you should report child abuse

🫂What to expect after a report is made

🫂Impact of abuse and domestic and family violence on children

How to help someone at risk of DV

SEE

TALK

OFFER SUPPORT
PREVENT

🫂How to help someone you think or know is affected by domestic and family violence

🫂How to respond to someone experiencing domestic and family violence

🫂Key signs someone is potentially being abused

🫂Key signs someone may be an abuser

🫂Personal reflections from survivors

🫂Business support to help employers support employees

🫂Trauma and Counselling support

Safety Exit Plan

Whether you are considering leaving or have left, we provide guidance on preparing a safety exit plan in advance.

🫂Keeping your home safe

🫂How to prepare an immediate escape from the home

🫂Preparing the children for an escape and departure from home

🫂What to consider and prepare as part of the safety plan

🫂Documents and evidence to take if safe to do so

🫂How to apply for an emergency Family Violence Restraining Order

Please note: the checklists are not exhaustive, to cover every scenario, but will assist you to reduce your risks.

Emergency Help with Accommodation

🫂How and where to access safe emergency housing and accommodation after leaving a harmful relationship?

🫂What are the emergency accommodation options?

🫂Am I eligible for emergency accommodation?

🫂Things to take and prepare

🫂Applying for longer term accommodation support

🫂Rent Assist and other government support

  • Watch a video of a refuge and what to expect

We endeavour to update these details on a regular basis as required but please immediately notify us if you believe there is any error in the detail or the service has discontinued.

Emergency Access to food and other key personal items

🫂How and where to access emergency food items

🫂Are we eligible for emergency access to food?

🫂How long will I be allowed to access emergency food and other personal items?

🫂How to access food and other key personal items after the initial emergency

  • We endeavour to update these details on a regular basis as required but please immediately notify us if you believe there is any error in the detail or the service has discontinued.

Emergency Access to financial assistance

🫂Am I eligible for financial assistance?

🫂What government financial assistance is available?

🫂How do I apply for financial assistance?

🫂Where do you get the forms from and how to complete the forms?

🫂What if I need help to complete the forms?

🫂What if I don't have Australian residency?

We endeavour to update these details on a regular basis as required but please immediately notify us if you believe there is any error in the detail or the service has discontinued.

Ongoing security

🫂Technology safety

🫂Financial safety

🫂Recording evidence

🫂Staying safe at work, school and in public

🫂Other key security suggestions

DV Police & Legal Processes

There can be some confusion and concern regarding making a complaint, the process, the evidence, the protection and the legal process from beginning to end.

🫂What can I do if I am a victim of domestic abuse?

🫂What to expect if I make a report?

🫂Urgent versus non urgent applications for a protection order

🫂Understanding the documents and filing

🫂What are the timings of getting protection?

🫂Do I need legal help?

🫂Do I need to go to court?

🫂What if someone lies about DV? What are my rights if falsely accused?

🫂What happens after we get the protection order?

🫂What if they breach the protection order?

DV Evidence Gathering

In order to support any claim for domestic or family violence and/or child abuse there needs to be credible evidence. It is important to record as much detail as possible (but ensuring you remain safe). The information you gather can potentially be used by policeas evidence.

We explain how to do this, what the police and courts require and what is legally able to be obtained and presented.

Longer term financial independence

🫂Credit scores and credit reports

🫂Obtaining a loan or refinancing

🫂Financial counselling

  • 🫂Getting debt under control

    🫂Career assistance

    🫂Dealing with debt collectors

    🫂Child support and other government assistance

    🫂Financial course and resources

    🫂Legal aid or community legal assistance

Co-parenting Challenges & helping the kids

Poor quality co-parenting relationships are commonly associated with negative effects for the victim/survivor and the children. Both divorce and violence-related concerns and experiences will influence cooperating relationships with the former partner.

We provide guidance on:

🫂Co-parenting when there are genuine fears for yours and/or the family safety

🫂How the courts look at 'best interests of the child' if there are safety concerns

🫂How to remain personally safe during co-parenting

🫂The appointment of an independent children's lawyers (ICL)

🫂Use of counsellors and confidentiality

🫂Gaining access to medical reports

🫂Details about family reports

🫂Supervised access, handover and handover centres

🫂Evidence gathering -how to gather evidence if required

🫂How to claim child support and maintenance and obtaining financial support.

🫂How, when and to whom to report safety concerns that have arisen during co- parenting as well as the consequences for intentionally making false allegations about another person

🫂Drug and alcohol addictions and the courts view on parenting and testing

🫂Remaining safe with IT and tracking when co-parenting

🫂Use of parenting apps

DV & Workplace Support

We understand it can be very difficult to report domestic and family violence matters to anyone, let alone to your workplace.

We discuss how you might do this, why, and how to best manage the process and make an application for domestic violence leave if required.

Preventing Violence in Australia -

🫂The Tragic Statistics

🫂Affirmative consent laws

🫂What influences family, domestic and sexual violence? (aihw,gov,au)

🫂Education programmes

🫂Rites of Passage, Role Models and Reconnect programs

🫂Changing the view on masculinity

🫂Pushing for change with child support enforcement
🫂White Ribbon Australia - global social movement

We endeavour to update these details on a regular basis as required but please immediately notify us if you believe there is any error in the detail or the service has discontinued.

Support for those committing abuse/violence

🫂Am I abusive? Checklist.

🫂Anger management courses available

🫂Stress management and resilience courses

🫂Counselling support and programs

🫂Support networks and programs

Reclaiming YOU!

Get back your life and find your happier place.

🫂Self care

🫂Women's Wellness Hub www.wellnessmenopausehub.com

🫂Men's Wellness Hub www.menwellnesshub.com.au

🫂Rural Support Hub - www.ruralsupporthub.com

🫂Counselling, Psychology, Trauma support

🫂Support networks

🫂Separation/Divorce support

🫂Career support

🫂Future relationships

🫂Breaking the cycle

Domestic & Family Violence Blogs

De Facto relationships in Australia

De Facto relationships in Australia

October 02, 20245 min read

If a de facto couple separate, there are very strict requirements to be satisfied before they can make a financial or parenting order in the Family Court after separation.”

A de facto relationship is defined in Australia as a relationship between two individuals, who may be of the same or opposite sex, who have a relationship as a couple, are not legally married or related by family, and live together on a genuine domestic basis.

De Facto Relationship

De facto relationships can be extremely varied and there is no set checklist of factors to prove that a couple is living in a de facto relationship, but the following is usually taken into consideration when assessing whether the couple is considered to be in a De facto relationship:

  •      Are the couple living together?

  •    How long have the couple been living together?

  •    Do they have a sexual relationship?

  •   Are they financially independent or do they share bank accounts, own property together, share weekly living expenses like electricity and gas and other utilities and insurance?

  •    Do their family and friends consider them a couple?

  •    Is there a mutual commitment between them?

  •    Do they have any children which they care for and support?

If a de facto couple separate, there are very strict requirements to be satisfied before they can make a financial or parenting order in the Family Court after separation. The Family Court does not apply to de facto relationships unless the court is satisfied that the following applies:

1.     The relationship broke down after 1 March 2009 or 1 July 2010 (South Australia) AND

2.      They  were in a genuine de facto relationship with each other (not legally married) and it has now broken down, AND

3.      They have a geographical connection to the participating jurisdiction, AND

4.      They must also meet one of the following criteria:

  • The period for the de facto relationship was for at least 2 years, OR

  • There is a child in the de facto relationship, OR

  • The de facto relationship is registered with the Department of Births, Deaths and Marriages under a prescribed law of a particular Australian State or Territory. De facto partners often register to show commitment to one another as well as to make it easier to prove they are in a relationship for financial matters such as tax and superannuation purposes, Centrelink and other government payments. Please note, different registration requirements may apply for each State and Territory of Australia, OR

  • If in a de facto relationship for less than 2 years, when assessing their property or custodial claims, it is recognised that a significant contribution was being made by one party and the failure to issue an order would result in a serious misjustice to the person applying for the order.

Parties who are separating from a de facto relationship can apply to the Family Court, using the same forms as a married couple, to have their financial and parenting matters determined in the same way as married couples.  De facto financial orders must be applied for within two years of the last breakdown of the relationship (ie date of separation). They must apply to the courts to get permission for an extension, if beyond two years.

Before a court can make a parenting order, the parties must show they have made a genuine attempt to resolve the disputes via family dispute resolution, which is a process in which an accredited family dispute practitioner helps people resolve disputes relating to separation or divorce.

Once family dispute resolution has been attempted, a section 601 certificate will usually be issued unless there are unique circumstances such as family violence or child abuse by a party or risk of it.

Date of Separation importance

The specific date of separation becomes important especially for property settlement as well as for child support payments and Centrelink entitlements. It is the day the two individuals stop living together as a couple. If there are disputes over the date, the parties can provide evidence such as receipts for short term leases or accommodation, separation of finances, notification of government social services of the separation, informing family and friends.

If the separated couple continue to live in the same residence for various reasons including financial, children or for convenience, the law will usually require supporting evidence (by sworn written statements referred to as affidavits) that the parties were actually separated whilst living under the same roof. If the date remains in dispute, the court will have to make their own judgment based on all the facts.

If there have been any attempts to reconcile during the separation period, then provided it is for no more than 3 months, the length of the first separation can be then added to the subsequent separation period.  However, if the reconciliation is for more than 3 months then the date of separation begins from the end of the last reconciliation.

How to protect your assets from a de facto relationship

A Binding Financial Agreement (BFA) is often the most effective way as it considers what each person brings into the relationship, their contribution during the relationship and other conditions such as children of the relationship.

De Facto separation and your Will

In many states of Australia, it should be noted that separating from your de facto partner will not change your Will and any gift in your Will to your ex-de facto partner would likely still be valid on your death, even if you have separated and divided up your assets. It is highly recommended that you get legal advice about your relevant jurisdiction’s requirements,  amending your Will and any future claims that your ex-de facto may still have on your estate, for example if they were being financially maintained by you at the time of your passing or they are the parent of your child, who is still a minor they may still be entitled to a claim even if your will is amended.


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