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Child Abuse and Keeping Children Safe:
What is child abuse?
Signs of child abuse and family violence
How to report and get help
What to do if a child reports abuse or family violence
How to validate a child's experiences and emotions
Tips on how to keep children safe
What if you were accused of abuse?
Documenting/evidence
The legal process
Short and long term emotional support
Impact of abuse on children
Don't wait until you're certain that a child is being abused: if you have any concerns or suspicions, reach out for help.
If a child is in immediate danger immediately call 000 for police in Australia.
What are some potential signs of child abuse?
The signs of child abuse aren't always obvious, and a child might not feel able to tell anyone what's happening to them. Sometimes, children don't even realise that what's happening to them is abuse.
There are different types of child abuse and the signs that a child is being abused may depend on the type of abuse.
For example, the signs that a child is being neglected may be different from the signs that a child is being abused sexually.
Physical child abuse is the non-accidental infliction of physical injury or harm of a child in the form of a beating, shaking or burning, assault with implements, female genital mutilation.
Signs of physical child abuse might include (but are not limited to):
evidence of physical injury that would not likely be the result of an accident
bruises or welts on facial areas and other areas of the body such as the back, bottom, legs, arms and inner thighs.
burns from boiling water, oil or flames or burns that show the shape of the object used to make them such as from an iron, grill or cigarette.
fractures of the jaw, skull, nose and limbs, especially those not consistent with the explanation offered, or the type of injury possible at the child's age of development
cuts and grazes to the mouth, lips, gums, eye area, ears and external genitalia.
bald patches where hair has been pulled out
multiple injuries - old and new
effects of poisoning
internal injuries
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Child sexual abuse
This is when a person uses power or authority over a child to involve them in sexual activity which can include a wide range of physical and non-contact sexual activity including kissing or fondling of a child in a sexual way, masturbation, fondling the child's genitals, oral sex, vaginal or anal penetration by a penis, finger or other object, exposure of the child to pornography, talking to a child in a sexually explicit way, sending sexual messages or emails to a child, exposing a sexual body part to a child, forcing a child to watch a sexual act including pornography, having a child pose or perform in a sexual manner, grooming or manipulation.
Behavioural signs to watch for in a child which may indicate abuse:
Some children show no signs of being abused, while others may show signs of abuse through their behaviour, emotions or physical appearance.
Some signs can be common across different types of abuse.
Other signs may only suggest that a child is experiencing trauma or grief.
self-stimulatory behaviours such as rocking or head banging which had not been previously observed
crying excessively or not at all in young toddlers/infants
listless and immobile or very thing and pale
disclosure of physical abuse by the child, friend or family member
inconsistent or unlikely explanations for cause of the injury
wearing clothes unsuitable for weather conditions to hide injuries
wariness or fear of a parent, carer or guardian and great reluctance to go home
unusual fear of physical contact with adults
fear of home, specific places or particular adults
unusually hyperactive, aggressive, bullying, disruptive, and destructive to self or others
sudden withdrawal and isolation from family and friends
unusually anxious, frightened or confused
little reaction or emotion when being hurt, injured or threatened
suddenly engaging in high risk behaviour suddenly - drinking, drugs, eating disorders, cutting
bed-wetting, nightmares, sleep walking, insomnia, sudden fear of the dark
knowledge of adult issues that are inappropriate for their age
running away or going missing
complaining regularly of headaches, stomach pains or nausea without physiological explanation, poor self care or personal hygiene.
It can be difficult to tell if child abuse or family violence is happening and those carrying out the abuse can act very different when other people are around. Children and young people might also feel frightened and confused, keeping the abuse to themselves.
These signs don’t necessarily mean that a child is being abused, there could be other things happening in their life which are affecting their behaviour– but it may necessitate further consideration.
You may also notice some concerning behaviour from adults who you know have children in their care, which makes you concerned for the child/children’s safety and wellbeing.
If you suspect a child has been significantly harmed or at risk
if you suspect that a child has been significantly harmed, or is at risk of being significantly harmed, here are some important things to remember:
What to do if a child reveals abuse
If a child talks to you about abuse it's important to:
Police: Phone Triple Zero (000) if it’s an emergency or if you believe a child is in immediate danger or in a life-threatening situation.
Contact:
each state:
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Children often need support to get help, and their families may be too ashamed, distressed or not know how to ask for help. It can be difficult reporting child abuse. People often find it easier to ignore it or avoid thinking about the possibility a child may have been abused.
Find out why it's so important to report child abuse
Child abuse doesn't go away and usually becomes more serious over time.
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It's important to act as soon as you suspect child abuse, or if a child tells you they've been abused.
Remember that:
⏹️⏹️They are my friend and I don't want them to get in trouble
You know the person who is alleged to have sexually offended and don’t want them getting into trouble with the law. That is unfortunate obviously but protecting the child or protecting the person who is alleged to have sexually offended against a child or young person has to be the priority.
⏹️⏹️You think the family should just deal with the situation
Sometimes, the family’s response is to ask the person who is alleged to have sexually offended against a child or young person offender to go and live somewhere else. If you don’t report the abuse, the offender may continue abusing children.
⏹️⏹️You don’t want to make the situation worse for the family
You may be afraid that reporting abuse will make things worse for the family. It’s important to think about the child who may not have anyone else to protect them, or may be too scared and ashamed to talk about what’s happening.
⏹️⏹️You may be worried the child will be removed from their family
Caring for children and keeping them safe and well is very important.
⏹️⏹️You’re not absolutely positive the child is being abused
You don’t have to prove that a child has been abused before reporting abuse. If you’re worried about a child’s safety, we’ll talk to the family about their situation and assess how we can help them care for their child.
⏹️⏹️You’re worried the family will find out you reported the abuse
Under child protection laws, your identity is kept confidential and can’t be disclosed, even to the child’s family, when you report child abuse. You also can’t be held legally liable if you’re acting honestly and reasonably. (what about other states???)
⏹️⏹️You think it’s none of your business and just don’t want to get involved
Trust your instincts, and don’t just hope that someone else will speak up.
It’s everyone’s responsibility to keep children safe from abuse.
When making a report about child safety concerns, you will be asked to provide information that can help officers decide how best to respond. It is still vital you call even if you don’t have all the information.
The information includes:
When you make the report, your details are kept confidential.
You are able to make the report anonymously if you wish; however, it is preferable to provide these details so that the officer can call you if further information is needed.
Due to privacy and confidentiality rights of any child or parent brought to the attention of Child Safety, you will not be provided with the outcome for the report you make.
When concerns are reported, CSOs will determine how best to respond to the situation. Decisions are centred on ensuring the safety of the child. These decisions are often informed by the child's family and cultural values and how these contribute to their safety.
When concerns are reported, child safety officers will determine how best to respond to the situation.
Decisions take into account the need to ensure the safety of the child, while respecting the diversity of family values, lifestyles and culture.
Our department will respond to child protection concerns by either:
At this point the person who notified us (the 'notifier') may be provided with information, advice or a referral to another agency to assist the child and family.
If the concerns that are reported to the department are recorded as notification:
A notification is also recorded on an unborn child when there is reasonable suspicion that the baby will be at risk of harm after they are born.
A child safety officer or police officer can move a child to a safe place in the following circumstances:
The officer must move the child to a safe place, or make arrangements for another reliable person to move them to a safe place, where they can remain until they return to the care of the parents or a family member.
A safe place can be:
Additional support - getting help
You can call any of the following community services for support or advice.
However, if a child is in danger please call the police on Triple Zero (000).
Family and Child Connect - Call 13FAMILY or 13 32 64.
Anyone can contact Family and Child Connect for advice and information, including parents, grandparents, other family members and young people. Family and Child Connect is a free service provided by trusted, local organisations who are experienced in working with families.
Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Family Wellbeing Services
Family Wellbeing Services are a free and confidential one stop shop for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander families to access support to improve your social, emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing, and help you be able to safely care for and protect your children. All Family Wellbeing Services are delivered by Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander community controlled organisations ensuring the support available is culturally safe and appropriate.
Parentline - call 1300 301 300.
Parentline is a free, confidential telephone service providing counselling and referrals. Counsellors are available from 8am to 10pm, 7 days a week.
Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800
Children, teenagers and young adults can call Kids Helpline to talk about anything — what’s going on at home, stuff with friends, something at school or feeling sad, angry or scared. Freecall (24 hours, 7 days a week) or webchat.
Emotional/psychological long term impact
Counselling
Legal process
What to do if a report has been made against you for abuse
🫂How prevalent is it? (aihw.gov.au)
🫂Children's exposure to domestic and family violence (www.aifs,gov,au) and the effects on the child
🫂What are the signs of child abuse?
🫂How do you report child abuse and whom?
🫂What evidence do you need to report child abuse?
🫂What is likely to happen after the issue is reported?
🫂Role of child protection services (www.aihw.gov.au)
🫂Support services for children
🫂School based programs and training
🫂Breaking the cycle
Quotes from the kids:
"I really need your help; my dad has been physical abusing my mum. He has an anger problem and it's getting out of hand. The smallest things make him angry and he starts shouting. I'm terrified of him and I've had enough, I can't take it any more - please help me!"
What's important is to make sure the abuse stops and that children have a safe and stable environment to grow up in.
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